I woke up this morning feeling a little bit like SuperWoman. On normal mornings, I press snooze a few dozen times, begrudgingly drag myself to the gym, and don’t really feel fully alive till I have consumed at least two very large cups of coffee. Today was different: I rolled out of bed as soon as my alarm went off, made it to the gym on time for my class, and now I am listening to Katy Perry’s “Roar” on repeat. I think all this Christmas cheer has gotten to me.
So, when I realized that I had scheduled Dr. Jaime Kulaga’s post for today, it felt very appropriate. She is the author of Type ‘S’uperWoman – Finding the Work-Life Balance: A Self-Searching Book for Women. We all want to become SuperWoman, right? Well, start by using these super powers in your everyday routine:
Don’t Compare Yourself
A real SuperWoman knows that when working toward goals, she sets her own pace. When you compare yourself, you put yourself in a direct line for failure and feelings of guilt. People do not achieve their goals and lack fulfillment when they give themselves unrealistic expectations which are usually based upon someone else’s scale of life. Get off Mrs. Jones’ scale. Set yourself and your future up for success by getting your own scale to life.
No Impulsive Decisions
Don’t make a decision too quickly or based out of an intense emotion. This goes for breaking up with boyfriends, leaving a job, firing an employee, investing in stock, anything. If you end a relationship abruptly, and really don’t want to, as you beg for the person back, you use time and energy. You also forfeit your personal control potentially ruining your credibility within the relationship. The more impulsive decisions you make, the more you will find that your decision making process is not very good. Repeated patterns of poor decision making, decreases a woman’s confidence. A real SuperWoman knows that in order to increase your confidence you must take time to reflect on situations before making a decision.
Get Rid of Toxic People
To be a SuperWoman, you must fight off the bad guys, or, bad BFF’s, that is. As hard as this is, if you want to work toward self-actualization, get rid of the Toxic people in your life. Pull out the old journal and write down all the people that are toxic in your life. The bi-polars (these people take you up and down. I love you, I hate you), the criers, the takers, the down-right mean people, the users, the bull-shitters, the gossipers, and the passive aggressives.
Circle the ones you know you can get rid of first and erase them like you hit the delete button on your computer. Ex-boyfriends don’t change and the BFF will always have drama, bringing you down a slippery slope of trying to manage her stress and your own. Some people say you are what you eat. I say, you are who you associate with. People are typically a combination of the top three to five people they associate with most. Take a moment to reflect on the people you spend most of your time with and reflect on whether or not these people are in line with your goals and values.
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