Every time I have a random thought, I always want to rush to blog about it. It is kind of annoying because I can’t concentrate on anything else until I released my feelings through a blog post.
I spend a lot of time consuming media, and this week, I noticed the headlines about Lululemon’s founder blaming his see-thru pants debacle on the shape of certain women’s bodies. I also noticed the stuff about Abercrombie now offering clothes in sizes larger than 10 (I am not going to WALK, but RUN to my nearest Abercrombie to stock up!!); yes, after their CEO said the clothes were only for hot, skinny people (or whatever he said). I never further pursue these articles because quite frankly outraged stories about fat shaming or body image irritate me. Not to be insensitive, but I really don’t understand why these things blow up to cause so much commotion and finger pointing.
I feel like a lot of issues do get solved by bringing awareness and talking your way to a conclusion. In the case of different body types/sizes in fashion, my stance on the subject is: stop talking about it and it will get solved on its own. Whenever there is so much outrage over a brand or CEO’s negative comments, it creates more of a divide within the industry; once again, it becomes fat vs. skinny. Instead, we should ignore the haters (stop giving them more attention), and aim for an industry without the labels. We should be able to look at a magazine and have models of all different sizes in the same spread. Money talks and as the plus size industry keeps growing (its arguable whether this is a good or bad thing), it will start to become part of the norm, rather than an anomaly.
I have digressed a little bit from my original idea for the post, which is stop blaming the media, retailers and everyone else for your body image issues. START TALKING CONTROL OF YOUR OWN SELF ESTEEM. In order for you to find happiness and confidence, you have to create it on your own. Do that; instead of, blaming external forces about why you don’t feel good about yourself.
Like anything else in life, self confidence takes practice. When you do something over and over again, you obviously become more comfortable with it. By placing yourself in situations that you would normally shy away from, will help to build your self confidence. Does that make sense? It does in my head LOL. The point is work towards getting rid of your insecurities by taking them head on.
Let’s do a little less blaming everyone else for our lack of confidence, and a little more of the things that make us feel the most confident.
Oh, you know how we love our scientific research over here. I did a little poll via social media to see what makes some lovely ladies feel their most confident (annnnndd none of them have to do with their weight):
“I feel most confident when i’m having a good hair day and when I’m able to help someone else feel validated” —Nicole S. from writes like a girl blog
“Right after I’ve exercised” —Claire H.
“When I’ve finished a project of some kind that I worked really hard on” —Sally B.
“When I receive messages that my poetry has touched someone deeply, that my voice was heard” —Kayla H.
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